Sunday, September 1, 2013

A Note on Imperfections

As much praise as you will get in this world there will always be an equal number of comments made about your imperfections. I'm not trying to be morbid, it's just that that's how it is. Even, if you are praised more, the voice in the back of your head that tells you you're not good enough will surely remind you of those times where you were less than "perfect" and those times where someone felt the need to point it out to you.  I haven't actually encountered too much of this lately, but it does pop up in my head from time to time and I just felt like I needed to write a post about it -just a short one- so I could remind people of a few things. (Those people probably won't see this, but putting something like this out into the universe has got to be good for someone...)

Everyone has imperfections. It's true. I hate to hear people say that they just love a certain celebrity and that said celebrity defines perfection, because it's not true. Celebrities wear make-up, they have gowns designed for them and they don't always know what they are talking about. Remember watching earlier Julia Stiles movies where she didn't have the most perfect teeth? And, notice now that it seems that she may have had dental work done? Now answer this, was she any less likable before? I would answer no. I liked her teeth. Imperfections make one human and honestly, they give people this quirky individuality that makes them, them. 

Like every one else, I have imperfections. One of these being my teeth. They are not perfect teeth. They are small, close-together teeth and I get stuff stuck in them all the time. When I smile I show a large portion of my top gum. Overall, I am a little self conscious of my teeth. And, they aren't as bad as they used to be. When I was in primary school my bottom teeth were really crooked and I had to get a few removed. Mum  had considered getting me braces, but it would require a lot of teeth being removed, I would of had to have waited many years for my adult teeth to come through and then there would have been this large expense. I still get a few people ask me why I don't get braces and I think it's ridiculous. There is nothing critically wrong with my teeth, it's just "cosmetic". Am I supposed to just "fix" my teeth because people ask me to? And, then what do I do when people find another fault with me? Do I just keep altering myself until I reach perfection? No, I think that is unrealistic. So, if people persist on telling me that I need to fix my teeth I tell them about Julia Stiles and Kirsten Dunst. These are both beautiful women who at least started out their acting career with imperfect teeth.

The thing about imperfections is that you can do your best to distract people from your imperfection but highlighting your assets. You can have bad teeth and distract people from them by highlighting your eyes the way that a musician may avoid songs with high notes and show of their low range. Or you could care less wear bright lipstick the way that Courtney love might scream out the parts where the higher notes should be...

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Jessica Cangiano said...

My dear, this post gets a resounding hear, hear from me, let me tell you. I have battled with major body image issues and low self esteem my whole life, only just starting to get a bit better with learning to love my body, flaws and all, in the second half of my twenties. It would take a book (or at least essay) sized comment to go into all the whys and hows of where most, if not all, of these negatives feelings about myself stem from, so instead I'll just join you embracing imperfection and cherishing the body that you have right here and now. I'm getting better at doing so with age, and hope it's a trend that will continue (for both of us) with each passing year.

♥ Jessica

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